What it takes to be a Woman . . .
As a follow up to my previous post on the big M . . . I thought it fitting to write a post on what most women go through on a daily basis. The pressure we ultimately put on ourselves to be feminine, yet strong. Domestic, yet fully capable of balancing a career.
Need the checkbook balanced? Done. The stain out of your favorite white tee? Done. A stocked pantry? Done. Food on the table? Done. Clean Clothes? Done. A fat paycheck? Done. Birthdays and Anniversaries of friends and family remembered? Done (and might I add with a gorgeous present wrapped in a pretty bow). Need to know where the thingamajigi is? Done. Need a doctor’s appointment for that aching back? Done. Need to be reminded when it actually is the day before? Done.
Really .. . . I could go on and on but I’m hopeful whoever is reading this post gets the point.
Hard to believe women can do ALL of that and MORE while deep down dealing with huge insecurities of the “not enoughs”. Not smart enough. Strong enough. Pretty enough. Thin enough. Fast Enough. Just Not Enough. It’s overwhelming and yes, I recognize that some (if not all) of this pressure is self induced. We have the choice to not bow down to it. Now if only that choice was realistic in this candy coated world that we actually live in.
Most men only have to shave their face. ALL women (in the U.S. for sure anyway) have to worry about the hair on their face, their legs, their armpits, their bikini line, and basically any other body part where “hair” just shouldn’t be.
We bleed. Monthly. Nuf said.
Makeup. Do you know that it is actually kind of fun to put the stuff on but it SUCKS to take it off? And yeah…you men out there can joke that it sucks for you too when it comes off, but let me remind you how that doesn’t help our “Not Pretty Enough” syndrome. I often feel makeup is a double edged sword. It’s a great tool to enhance what we are naturally born with. But even then, the public gets used to the basic makeup we put on, the hair that we carefully style each morning, the nails that we get done monthly, the clothes we carefully buy to flatter our figures….that we often feel we can’t leave the house au natural! We feel ashamed or ugly. It’s actually very sad. Natural beauty is something that should be looked for in everyone. Appreciated. Coveted. Instead it seems society looks for beauty in the over makeuped, over styled, barely dressed barbie doll with fake nails, fake boobs, and fake hair. And truly, I mean no hate towards women who do use and like all the synthetic stuff. . . the world is a bitch and we do what we gotta do to keep face (literally) but it just makes me a little sad that the “real” stuff we women were born with is overlooked and forgotten.
Wrinkles. Sun damage. Cellulite. I don’t care what you say, the majority of men really do age like fine wine. My hubby I know for sure is just going to keep getting better looking and better looking as he ages and I am going to struggle to keep up. He’s going to be 50 with little 25 year old tarts waving their cute little arms to get his attention. I’m 26 (in a half . . .I just had to say that) and I’ve already got a nice little line right between my brows from furrowing them too much. By the time I’m 40 that line is going to be a deep groove…my sweat is going to pool there to form a nice little brook…I can just see it now.
*Sigh* words cannot do justice what women do and go through…… but men let me tell you . . under each makeuped and styled to the nines controlling, domestic, feminine, strong, nagging female is a little girl just wanting to be taken care of. I promise.
